Whatever regulation that we enforce upon ourselves, is the same thing that we are condemning ourselves of.
Eg. we are enforce rules of certain behaviors, we are actually condemning our own behaviors.
Condemnation is dangerous, condemnation has no limitation to is demands, that’s why it kills your self-esteem, your self-righteousness. The Law is meant to lead you to the end of your-self, where you will eventually realize your unreserved need for God; no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get through it, you need something more powerful, you need something that is beyond your ability, what you really needed was and is God.
So instead of enforcing high demands and expectations on yourself, replace it with God’s Grace and wisdom, let Jesus (Truth & Grace), be the One to empower you. Our new nature in Christ no longer requires the fashioning of the Old Covenant of regulations and demands, we have been depleted of the old nature, hence, we now longer have to be led by the old discipline of legalism. Jesus abolished the old discipline, by fulfilling all of it on our behalf. He took our place, and today we take His place.
Jesus is our new discipline; He is also our obedience, and also our King. Jesus leads us under the fashion of the New Covenant; which is by grace and supply; He leads us by giving to us what we need in order to function, instead of demanding from us to function for what we need.
Let the Spirit of Liberty to guide you, receive from Him what you need, let Him perform in you and through you.